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How Are You Going to Go Through This?

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The test is during the training, not the race. The past two weeks have made this more clear to me than ever! Today ends week two of my running training. One of the things I’ve committed to in this season is running a half marathon. Woooooaaaahhh dere! Lol! I know! He’s got me though! More than the marathon race itself, for me, this run is about the grit that I give in my everyday life.

I’m in a season of strong transition and one of the things that is essential to going through transition is your disposition while tarrying to the next destination. Habakkuk 2:3 says, “For the vision is yet for an appointed time, but at the end it shall speak, and not lie: though it tarry, wait for it; because it will surely come, it will not tarry.” The Message Bible puts it like this,

And then God answered: “Write this.
    Write what you see.
Write it out in big block letters
    so that it can be read on the run.
This vision-message is a witness
    pointing to what’s coming.
It aches for the coming—it can hardly wait!
    And it doesn’t lie.
If it seems slow in coming, wait.
    It’s on its way. It will come right on time.”

When you haven’t exactly reached where you are going, but you are in route to that place, that’s when you need to show up as the highest form of yourself. I use to think “Race Day” was the day I gave my all, but these last couple of weeks of running training have taught me the exact opposite.

Anyone who has run any distance knows that running is primarily made up of mental stamina. A small portion is dedicated to your actual physical strength. Contrary to popular belief, getting your body in shape isn’t the tough part. Getting your mind in alignment, now that’s where the rubber meets the road.

I’ll be the first to admit, these last couple of weeks have been mentally exhausting. Breaking through your comfort zone requires a lot of courage, faith, & steadfastness. I can easily recall the day I was on the verge of vomitting and just plain ole’ giving up and I heard my trainer in my ear saying, “Noone ever drowned in their sweat!” My thoughts went immediately to the rebuttal, “How do you know that?? Have you researched it? Listen I’m the one over here putting in all this work. Let me do it my way!”

Do you see and here my disposition? How can you rest in the victory that was paid for you if you’re warring within yourself? Every battle begins internally, and if you’ve lost it there, you are certain to lose it elsewhere. It was in those very type of moments this week where I learned to bust through the barrier of myself. Whenever I got to the point where I ran out of steam, I just forced myself to take a deep breath, blow out every step that I’d taken to get me to that point, and bust through the wall of mental limitation that told me my body had reached its max. Yall, it was GLORIOUS! I felt like I crossed over into a runner’s high of sorts where I was literally galloping over the air!

So, why did I take the time to recount this story? Well, it’s simply because I believe running is a kind of type and shadow for our life. When you get to your tipping point in this transition season are you going to give up because you don’t see change coming quickly enough or are you going to force yourself to take a deep breath, exhale everything that has lead you to this moment, and burst through that wall of limitation?

It’s all a choice! You don’t wait until Race Day and say I’m going to give this race my all. Race Day is actually on “training days.” It’s during the training that you have the time and space to push your abilities to the max. It’s there where you force your mind to surrender to your body. It’s there where you develop your bravery and optimistic attitude that NOTHING is impossible. Your body will do the work! The question is will you position your mind to submit to you? Those training days are EVERYTHING!

I’ll end with this. Most people play around with training days because it’s not the “real thing.” However, let me submit to you if you don’t show up in the form of grit on training days, once you finally get to Race Day, it’ll mimic Day 1 of training precisely. Do the work!  Yes, it will suck! I’m not going to lie to you. However, it will get better as you gain mental acuity and strength with each new training session. Push past what is familiar. You have to let the “old you” die, if you want the new version of yourself to surface. Stop holding on. Chart new territory. Don’t look back. Train each day like it’s Race Day, and watch how beautifully your encore will unfold! Chiiiillee, I’m right here with you sweating, training, and bursting through with you!

In peace,

His Daughter

…but God I Still Have Questions…

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The past two days have taught me a valuable lesson: just because your mouth isn’t moving, doesn’t mean you are silent. What!? I know right! Read it again. Just because your mouth isn’t moving, doesn’t mean you are silent. Let me explain.

For some time now, I’ve come to my Daddy God in the spirit of surrender. Father, not my will, but yours. I desire what you want for me. Yet, all the while, my thoughts were speaking louder than my words! I went to Him with a crap ton of questions last night simply because I didn’t understand a lot that was happening. I awoke the next morning doing the same thing. I struggled to verbalize my inquiries and feelings and tried to allow my tears and groanings to do the talking instead. I wondered how I could be positioned so humbly and still not have an understanding.

At that moment, I realized that although my mouth had been silent, my mind had not. Humbling yourself requires you not necessarily understanding everything at that moment. As He showed me my “thoughts’ were speaking louder than my mouth, my only response was to silence ALL of me. “Daughter, just because words are not coming out of your mouth doesn’t mean I can’t hear you.” Hebrews 4:13 says, “Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight. Everything is uncovered and laid bare before the eyes of him to whom we must give account.”

What I’m trying to say is, if you are currently seeking answers from Our Father, you can’t just be silent and say you’ve humbled yourself in a position to gain understanding, if you are still allowing your thoughts to do the talking within you. Listen, there are going to be things we don’t understand right away, but this is what I do know. For years I did life my way, and I saw where that got me: NOWHERE FAST.

I’m in a stage in my life where I’m betting it all on Jesus! I don’t have anything to lose! If you’re gonna risk it ALL, why not do it for the one who holds the galaxies and the universe in His hands? Why not do it for the one who makes sure the ocean doesn’t go past the boundary of the sand? Why not do it for the one who sets the moon in the sky at night, and illuminates the darkness at the perfect time for the “day” to begin? I mean seriously, do you know anyone who can do it like The King Himself!?? I’ll wait……..and the G.O.A.T. Lifetime Award goes to…….the Messiah!!

Do I understand everything? I don’t. Do I get frustrated? I do. Especially when other people are involved. However, when He calmly quiets me with His love in the middle of me “throwing a fit,” I silence my mouth and my thoughts, and I remember that He is the ULTIMATE man of His Word! He CANNOT FAIL! He WILL NOT FAIL! Regardless of if I understand everything at this moment or not, I choose to risk it all for Him, knowing that I can always depend on Him coming through in the clutch no matter what! We have to die to our flesh to get where He wants us to be. Afterall, this is all His plan. What do we look like trying to run it?? I know you’re used to knowing everything and being in control, but God is the ultimate type A…..who gon’ check Him boo?? Lol! if you want Him to win, and trust me you do, you have to yield. He has sooo much goodness planned for us!

Here’s my encouragement to you:

  1. Acknowledge that you don’t understand it all. You won’t! Isaiah 55:8 says, “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the Lord.” 
  2. Silence your mouth and thoughts.
  3. Ask Him for understanding.
  4. Then, press forward knowing that He wants to get the glory from your life. Romans 8:28 says, “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.” Let Him get the glory from your life. Not you!

Let Him do it the way He has purposed, and trust that when the time is right He’ll give you the deets. I mean do parents give in-depth explanations to their 2-year-olds? Uhhhh….I know my mama told me what she saw fit to tell me at that age because she “knew” waaaayy more than my little 2-year old self who probably went in a tizzy when I didn’t get my way. Chiiiiiilllleeee….be humble. Sit down. Your Father LOVES you far too much than to set you up for the okie doke. He has your back! Swallow your pride and push through. Everything is ok.

In peace,

His Daughter

 

The Race That Changed My Life!

 

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FOCUS ON YOUR RACE. Many, many years ago when I was in high school, I ran track and field. I remember my first 4 x 100-meter baton race like it was yesterday. I ran so hard I vomited during practices. I forfeited yummy food during lunch every day just so I could be in tip-top shape to sprint around that track. Most of all, I’d gotten past my fear of running out of breath! Y’all track runners know what I mean….or was that just me who was afraid to give everything I had for fear of running out of breath?? Bwaaahhh!!! Lol. I digress.

At any rate, the BIG day had arrived! It was the first district meet of the season, and I was on the women’s 4 x 1 baton relay. I mean, all I could think about was those runner’s cramps and my throw up on the pavement from previous practices better pay off today! (Can you tell I HATE throwing up!?) That throw up was gon’ learn today! *Kevin Hart voice

The gunshot and I could see my teammates sprinting their lives away! At that moment I wondered where my teammate got that puma stride from? Dang girl! Oh, and did I mention I was the only novice runner placed on a team of seasoned sprinters?? Lawd, somebody help me!

I was set to run the fourth leg to bring it on home. My third teammate glared at me so as to say, “Remember the pass off. Don’t drop the baton!” We were in the lead as she inched closer and closer. I turned my body and face forward, stuck my hand and arm back to receive the pass and mentally prepared to annihilate the race.

The crowd was going crazy! My adrenaline was pumping harder than a drum in an HBCU Battle of the Bands event! I took off! All I could see was the victory! “Burst towards the line gurl, burst!” At that moment I learned one of the most important lessons I’d ever learned in my life.

As I was giving that race my all, I glanced in my peripheral, tilted my head a bit, and saw the girl next to me gaining speed. It all became a blur beyond that point. All I know was I was thinking, “Oh no you don’t chiile! This race is mine baby!! There’s throw up on the line!”

I don’t believe we came in first place that day because I remember my coach telling me, “NEVER LOOK BACK OR TO THE SIDE WHEN YOU ARE RUNNING. FOCUS FORWARD.”  As I got in the shower today, I was reminded that in this race that we refer to as life, some people may walk, some may jog, some may sprint. The fact of the matter is, I’ve been tasked with the responsibility of running “my own race.” The moment I glance over at someone else’s progress is the moment my destiny is distracted. Unless of course, I’m stopping to help someone out.

The enemy tries to use whomever and whatever He can to derail us from our destinies. How is it possible that a simple glance to the right, & the thought of someone gaining momentum on me able to cause a shift in the entire trajectory of the race, including the work my three other teammates put in?? There’s too much at stake y’all! We must fight to stay focused! Don’t worry about what everyone else is doing. They haven’t been given the destiny assignment your Father gave you. You’re comparing a snail’s movement to that of a panther. The designs are inherently different!

Last point. I couldn’t help but to be reminded of Lot’s wife in Genesis 19 who looked back after the angels told her and her family to run for their lives. Why did she look back!? Was she curious as to if “everyone” else was running too? I have no idea, but I know that quick glance cost her, her life. You know the story. She was turned into a pillar of salt as she directed her glance backward.  Good gracious is that story not a graphic example to not look back when you’ve been told to move?

Here’s my encouragement. Perhaps that moment in that race was intended to remind me of the importance of keeping my eyes focused forward. After all, there’s much more at stack in life than that simple high school race. Today, commit to being obedient to what your Father has spoken to you. He is Alpha and Omega. He knows your end from the beginning. He needs your cooperation to manifest that which He’s purposed in you. You got this! Trust me, what’s beside & behind you is none of your business. You have your Father’s voice to look forward to—“Well done good and faithful servant!”

In peace,

His Daughter

5 Books That Have Shifted My Life!

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Proverbs 4:7 tells us,

 “Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.

One of the primary ways I glean wisdom and understanding is by reading books from people who I trust to feed into my life. Sometimes your knowledge attainment and mentorship will not come through a one on one relationship. Our Father is creative. He can also use authors to speak into our lives and teach us. Today I’m going to share 5 books that I’ve read through out my life that have radically shifted me in one or more ways. This list is not exhaustive. There are a plethora more too add, but I’ll start you off slow. I encourage you to check them out! Also, send your recommendations my way! I’d love to hear what books have aided in your transformation.

 

  1. The Search For Significance, Robert S. McGee
  2. The Pursuit of Purpose, Dr. Myles Monroe
  3. Lead like Jesus, Ken Blanchard & Phil Hodges
  4. The Best Yes, Lysa Terkeurst
  5. A Return To Love, Marianne Williamson

In peace,

His Daughter