Real Talk: Survival Vs. Overcoming

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Most people focus on surviving devastating blows in their lives. Who can blame them?? When you are in the heat of battle, all you can think of is self-preservation, let alone the aftermath of everything that transpires. Yet, beyond your survival, Our Father wants even more for you to overcome. Take a seat. Allow me to break it down a bit farther.

A survivor copes well with difficulties in their lives. They go through trial and typically come out on the other end with remnants or scars that serve as evidence of what they’ve been through. Let me just say, NOTHING is wrong with that, because it is the first step that Our Father will have you take. However, if this is where you remain—as a survivor continually surviving what life throws at you, —-you have certainly stopped short of Our Father’s glory, your destiny, and His best for you.

Let this be the reason Our Daddy God calls us “more than overcomers” in Romans 8:37-

37  Yet in all these things we are more than conquerorsthrough Him who loved us.

Overcomers have taken it a step past surviving. Overcomers prevail against opposition, debility, and temptation. There is a newfound sense of authority that comes from our Almighty God that allows the stench of what we’ve been through to be erased. Check out 2 Corinthians 5:17 which says-

“This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun.”

How bout det!? As a child of the King, you are a new person! It reminds me of when I went through a pretty catastrophic relationship, and all I could focus on was surviving and coming out on the other side “somewhat normal” and able to fit back into my “normal routines.” Thank God, my Abba Father had a different plan and His kingdom is set to a different “normal.” Within a month’s time of pretty much being “buried” in the Word and praise and worship environment, and Him resurrecting Himself inside of me, He’d shown me who I was as a new creation! An overcomer! It was the MOST transformational experience of my life!!

All of that to say, when Our Father introduces you to yourself, grab hold of her! Love her! Encourage her! Develop her! You ARE the woman of HIS dreams that He designed you to be! You are The KING’S DAUGHTER! I’ll close with a few tips on why you can’t stop at your survival once He leads you there. Let this ENCOURAGE your heart in a MIGHTY WAY!

  1. He’s graced you to be an overcomer!! It’s literally your birthright!


  1. You CANNOT allow your pain to go in vain! If you went through the fire, gurrrrllll you betta make the devil pay for it by seeing your “GLAWRIOUS COMEUP”! #glowupgamestrong


  1. There are generations of people tied to your overcoming life. Do you know there are peoplewho stand in admiration of you daily and also people who’s life depends on you unleashing the gifts and talents Our Father placed only in YOU. The world depends on you to play your part of who you are! The real you! Chiiillleee you got something special. Gon’ ahead and shine for the people!


  1. You owe it to your Heavenly Father who sent HIS ONLY BEGOTTEN Son to die a devastating death just so you could enjoy an amazingly fabulous life! How many more people do you know that would voluntarily die for you in your worst state??? I’ll waittt……. Things that make ya go hmmmmm…


  1. You owe it to yourself to live your BEST life honey! You don’t come out of a situation only to show the scars and slowly sulk back into your past. You overcome so that the hint of smoke can’t even be detected on your clothes and you can be propelled into the life that’s been patiently awaiting you!


So put on your big girl panties and step into His Kingdom where we don’t just survive, we OVERCOME! Fight to become Her! He’s got you!


In peace,

His Daughter


“Daughters Arise Series!” Spotlight: Jasmine


Name:  Jasmine                      Occupation: Training Consultant

  1. What made you decide to accept Jesus as your Lord and Savior?

I was raised in the church and came to understand the reality of a Savior at a young age. I accepted him at a young age as well, and I don’t know that I can pin down a specific reason why other than I knew his grace. I had by that age seen the things that He’d done for me like saving my dad from a house fire that happened when I was in kindergarten. I also got to witness my father’s salvation when I was about 5 years old. I believe that this also helped me to see who God was and make a decision to follow Him. Though I accepted Jesus at about 4-5 years old, I was baptized at 6-7, after I saw my dad baptized.

2. What are you currently listening to?

I am always listening to a mix of individuals both in terms of music and sermons. I believe that in different seasons you need different words and worship. In this season, I am listening to Steven Furtick, John Gray, Toure Roberts and Sarah Jakes Roberts, and Joann Rosario Condrey and last but not least, my pastor Mike Hilson. I am also listening to Elevation Worship, Hillsong, Bethel, Jesus Culture, Housefires, United Pursuit, and Tasha Cobbs during worship. Specifically, the songs So Will I and Reckless Love have consistently wrecked me!

Periodically, I also like to listen to Judah Smith, Carl Lentz, Robert Madu, Shawn Bolz, Todd White, Christine Caine, Priscilla Shirer, Kris Vallotton, and recently Mike Todd. All solid preachers of the Gospel with no cut cards. Essentially, I enjoy preachers and teachers who give it straight.

3. What are you currently reading?

I am currently reading through the Bible in one year, specifically a version called “Everyday with Jesus” and I am reading a book on dreaming called “Dream Wild” by Jennifer LeClaire. Both are highly recommended. Dream Wild has been great for me in this season while I am awaiting the fulfillment of some of God’s big promises to me.

4. When did you really know for yourself that Christ is real?

I have always known and firmly believed that Christ was real. But to be honest, as a young child I feared Him more than I understood Him. I knew that he died for me. I knew that he watched over me, but I didn’t understand the ins and outs of our relationship. I would say that my knowledge of the reality of Christ is an on-going process. I say this because there is always more reality to discover and more facets of His character that I have yet to learn. I was about 10 years old when I had my first “encounter” with Holy Spirit that I can recall. In short, it’s the first time I can remember knowing that God was speaking to me. I was about 16 years old when I understood that my relationship with the Lord had to be different from my parent’s relationship with Him. It was then that I began to study more and read the word more on my own to understand what it said outside of the passages chosen for Sunday morning messages. I learned in that time what it was to “hide the word in my heart” and to use it to share with others. At about 21, I started to understand the differences between religious practice and actual relationship with the Lord. I dove deeper into healing, restoration, and the supernatural. I could go on and on but from there, I have never looked back. I have come to believe that while God did not create religion with denominations and social practices that we know today, he certainly will use it to get people through the door.

5. How do you maintain and keep a fresh relationship with Our Father?

Honestly, by honoring it as a relationship. Relationships don’t just flourish spontaneously. They flourish and grow because there are two committed people willing to work on remaining connected and handling the ups and downs of life together. I have been blessed to see this exemplified even in my parent’s 32-year marriage. Therefore, I try treat my relationship with not just the Father, but with the triune God (Father-God, Friend – Jesus, and Counselor/Comforter/Teacher – Holy Spirit) with care and willful attention. I talk to them all regularly, about the good and the bad. I am always honest with my feelings and thoughts. Sometimes I feel too honest but I am reminded that they know it all before I say a word but they still honor our relationship in the sense that they like to hear about things from me. I know that they are already committed to me and so I stay committed to them by spending time with them, reading the word, and asking questions. I invite Holy Spirit into my worship. I invite Jesus to ride in the car with me or to take walks together. It might sound weird, but I’ve even invited Him to sit and watch movies with me and every time I get some sort of revelation that I never would have gotten otherwise. I sit with the Father while soaking in His presence. I let them interrupt my days and nights. I invite them into my waking and sleeping thoughts. I just try to treat them as if they are really real and really there, because they are. I realize that I don’t have to come a certain way or be a certain way to experience the presence and transformative power of our God. I think of how I would want to be treated in a healthy relationship, and I do my best to treat God the same way. I would want attention. I would want intention, thoughtful and purposeful and planned out time and energy. I would want honesty. I would want faithfulness and loyalty. So, these are the things that I try to uphold to maintain my relationship with God.

6. What do you like to do for fun?

Love this question! Lots of people think that Christians don’t have fun but we have the best kind of fun! I enjoy fellowship whether that’s watching movies, shopping, dinner parties (really anything with good food), dancing, going to concerts and conferences, open mic nights, worship nights, and theme parks. Anything with good people is a good time.  

7. What does it mean to you to live in HD (His Daughter)?

It means understanding the power that I have. It means that I walk in authority by virtue of my relationship to the Father. It means that I can always come to him boldly and honestly, with and in anything. I believe in walking in the authority that we are given as daughters of the King, both spiritually and practically. The Word says that both male and female were made in God’s image, which means that we have the unique ability to present a part of the Father’s heart that our male counterparts may not be able to present. We have all have His creative power but only His daughters can bring forth new life as He does. We can all encourage, but as His daughter I am able to represent the nurturing and “emotional” aspect of my Father. All God’s children are beautiful but as His daughter I believe that we get to carry His beauty in a different way. We have a beauty, like His, that captivates. Most importantly it means everything to me to know that I can never be forsaken because I belong to Him. This knowledge is the lens through which I view the world around me and everything that happens to me.

8. If you could have witnessed anything in the Bible, what would it be?

This question was hard. First, I thought, I’d like to be there at the resurrection… then I realized that we get to live daily in the light of a resurrected Christ. Then, I thought maybe Pentecost because it would be awesome to see Holy Spirit come down with tongues of fire (always wondered exactly what that looked like) but I have experienced the presence of the Holy Spirit falling upon a room of waiting, expectant people. So, I landed on the beginning. Genesis chapters 1-2. I’d like to be there for the creation. I want to see just how God weaved everything together with words and breath. I want to be there to watch as things come alive for the first time and are named and given purpose. I want to see how he looks on everything and calls it good, knowing the end from the beginning and how things would pan out in the messy middle. I want to see what it really was like for Adam and Eve to walk with Him in the cool of the day completely whole, with nothing between them. It’s hard to fully imagine it in light of the earth we know today. So, I’d like to have witnessed Eden before that stupid serpent shows up.

9. Current Bible translation you are using:

I’m one of those people who reads multiple translations. I love going through scriptures and comparing language used in different translations. One of my favorites that I’ve done that with is 1 Corinthians 13. Romans 8 also wrecked me in a whole new way when I read multiple translations of that passage of scripture.

I frequent the NLT, NIV, NKJV, Passion Translation, Message, and Amplified Bibles. I also like God’s Word, ESV, and HCSB translations.

10. One scripture that calms you down:

Psalms 27:13-14 “Yet I am confident I will see the Lord’s goodness while I am here in the land of the living. Wait patiently for the Lord. Be brave and courageous. Yes, wait patiently for the Lord.” NLT



“Daughters Arise Series!” Spotlight: Connisha


Connisha                Occupation: Elementary Educator

 1. What made you decide to accept Jesus as your Lord and Savior?

In my youth, I had a reverential fear of God. I knew I wanted to spend eternity in heaven. I decided to accept Jesus Christ as my Lord & Savior during Altar Call, one Sunday morning. Tears began to roll down my face uncontrollably, and I felt led to go to the altar, to confess with my mouth that I believed in my heart that Jesus is Lord.

2. What are you currently listening to?
 My current playlist consists of Everlasting God (William Murphy), The Harvest Song (Anthony Brown), Greater (Tasha Cobb), and a series on YouTube titled, Relationship Goals by Pastor Michael Todd
3. What are you currently reading?
The book that has my attention right now is FERVENT by Priscilla Shirer.
4. When did you really know for yourself that Christ is real?
It was confirmed for me that Christ is real when I felt Him (Holy Spirit) speaking directly to me. It was through a message being delivered by His man servant. This message was pivotal in my walk with Christ, resulting in me rededicating my life to Christ.
5. How do you maintain and keep a fresh relationship with Our Father?
Quiet time in prayer, reading and applying God’s Word daily, and attending weekly services or spiritual conferences help me to maintain a fresh relationship with my Father.
6. What do you like to do for fun?
Time with family/friends, traveling, reading, serving others, arts & crafts projects, and participating in a new adventure makes life fun for me.
7. What does it mean to you to live in HD (His Daughter)?
As a daughter of the Most High I am armed with WISDOM, I walk by FAITH, live in PEACE, and I have the ability to GIVE THANKS in every type of situation.
8. If you could have witnessed anything in the Bible, what would it be?
If I could witness any occurrence in the bible, it would be Elijah & the Prophets of Baal on Mt. Carmel – 1 Kings 18 or When Jesus Calls His First Disciples – Luke 5.
9. Current Bible translation you are using:
 I use multiple translations during my study time (KJV, NIV, Life Application), because I am able to gain a better understanding of God’s Word.
10: One scripture that calms you down:
A scripture that keeps me grounded is Philippians 4:8. Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.


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Well hey spring and Happy Easter!

As we break ground, bloom into a brand new season, and hold hands with the very Creator who calls the tulips forth to blossom, let me be the first to welcome you to my site! I took a bit of a hiatus to seek revelation on what and how My Father would have me to share with you, and I’m back at it! There’s nothing like quiet time with my Daddy God 🙂

There’s a strong tie between winter and dormancy and spring and resurrection. What better day to work this thought out than on Easter Sunday!?

Sowing season begins when all is quiet, dark, and still. It’s the natural flow of the creation story.  In Genesis 1:1-3 the Word says,

“In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth. Now the earth was formless and empty, darkness was over the surface of the deep, and the Spirit of God was hovering over the waters.And God said, “Let there be light,” and there was light.”

Do you notice how the story of creation began in the dark? It’s not a coincidence. Or, think about the development of a fetus. It happens in the dark in the womb. In the winter, animals and even annual plants are dormant for a season until the timing  and conditions are ripe for development.

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Dormant is defined as a state of rest or inactivity. Even Jesus had a period of dormancy from birth to 30 years old. His formal ministry began when He was 30 years old!! Check out what He said when His own mom tried to get Him to manifest prematurely in John 2:4-

“Woman, why do you involve me?” Jesus replied. “My hour has not yet come.”

I mention all of this to say, dormancy is necessary for development and purposed execution, when the season is right. Over the course of the past several months Our Father has been speaking to me the word, “Arise.” Here I am, committing to surrender and partner with Him as He uses me to share His feminine design in me, with you. I am honored and excited (tad nervous about how deep He wants me to share) as I yield my will and comfort to BE the woman of His dreams that He designed me to Be. For Him, I will!


This month I’ll be highlighting various women in my “Daughters Arise!” series. I would love for you to choose to rise up and become the young lady or woman He has called you to be as well! Head over to my Homepage and check it out, and I’ll see you back in this same spot later this week! #getexcited #bloomingseason #dormancydone

Esther 4:14

“For if you remain silent at this time, relief and deliverance for the Jews will arise from another place, but you and your father’s family will perish. And who knows but that you have come to your royal position for such a time as this?”

In peace,

His Daughter