Many queens and kings are out here secretly counting the years of “their wait.” You’ve heard it before- “I’ve been single for 9 years,” “I’ve been single for 5 months,” “I’ve been single for a year.” Devon Franklin even has a book titled, “The Wait.” There’s another one out there titled, “Lady in Waiting.” -(which is pretty good might I add..lol)
Somehow in Christian singles circles today, the period of time leading up to the day you get married has been coined, “the wait.” Don’t get me wrong- I understand what is trying to be explained with the term, however, Our Heavenly Father dropped this gem into my spirit this morning. “What if “the wait” as many define it really ISN’T a wait at all? What if what we know as “the wait” is actually a period of “Reconstruction?” What if it’s actually a period of “Prayer Training?” What if it’s actually a period of “Learning to Be Present With Your Family? What if it’s a period of “Get Yo Money Right?” What if it’s a period of “Love Yourself Deeply?”
Is this beginning to make sense? All this time we have slapped a label on ALL of the years leading up to marriage as “The Wait.” What a sad generalization. Where is this rooted in scripture?
All the while, what if Our Heavenly Father has said you weren’t waiting for ANYTHING all of this time? What if this entire season He has defined this window of time in your life as “Purpose Revealing?”
Isn’t that crazy!? It’s wild how we humans are sooo quick to label and define things simply for the sake of us being able to understand or “cope” with what is not going the way we anticipated. Who are we to trump Our loving Father’s periods of opportunity that He’s given us and slap the label of our choice on it?
Listen, if you don’t get anything else from this post today, get THIS: If you are a single person (It doesn’t matter if you are in a relationship. If you are unmarried, you are single. Ask Our Heavenly Father to share the definition of this period in your life.)
What a shame it would be for you to be waiting in the lobby of the doctor’s office when you never had an appointment to begin with! Smh… Are you waiting in the lobby of your life for a spouse to appear? Chiillee, if Daddy God never gave you an appointment for your man, your “waiting” is in vain. You need to ask Him what this period of your life is called so you can get to stewarding it properly.
Perspective changes EVERYTHING.
I would absolutely LOVE to hear your thoughts on this one!