Forgiveness doesn’t have to be the other bad “F’ word. Lol.
I know what you’re thinking: “They don’t deserve it. It’s not fair. I have a right to be petty. They hurt me really bad this time. It would be “unjust” of me to forgive them.”
I know, I know. We’ve all had similar thoughts, but let me help you out if you find yourself in your feelings today.
Steps & Keys To Forgiving Others
- Ask yourself do you truly love and fear (revere) the Lord? -In John 14:15 Jesus said, “If you love me, you will keep my commandments.” Do you TRULY love God, or do you only love Him when it’s convenient for YOU? Oh no she didn’t #comefor me!?
- Remember that Jesus forgave you A DEBT you could NEVER REPAY. – Do you remember the fact that Jesus sent His ONLY child to the cross for YOU to pay for ALL of your sins and trespasses-past, present, and future FOREVER!? Plus, He promised He will NEVER remember your sins again!? He forgave you when you weren’t even living for Him! Certainly, you can forgive someone their offense against you. Hebrews 8:12 “For I will forgive their wickedness and will remember their sins no more.” I mean is God good or nawh?? He’s forgiven you for things you haven’t even done yet!
- Submerge yourself in scripture on forgiveness. –Go read and marinate on Matthew 18:21-35. Reread it as many times as you need to until the Holy Spirit shines a light on the thoughts in your head concerning whomever you have not forgiven. Put yourself in the parable and read it over and over.
- Forgiving isn’t for the other person. It’s for YOU.- Have you ever realized that unforgiveness requires a great deal of mental energy? Ain’t nobody got time for that! You constantly think about it. You retell the story repeatedly to others. You work yourself into a tizzy the more you retell the story. Ugh! Plus, you hinder your faith. Don’t believe me? Check out Matthew 11:22-26
- Don’t wait until you “feel” ready to actually forgive.- Make the decision to forgive and then allow your feelings to catch up to your faith. Your flesh will steer you wrong, but your spirit won’t. Matthew 26:41 says, “Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.”
- Ask Our Heavenly Father to help you forgive.-Don’t depend on your own strength to forgive. You’ll fail every time. Exodus 15:2 says, “The Lord is my strength and my defense, He has become my salvation.” 2 Corinthians 12:9 says, But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.”
- Cast your cares and worries about this person onto Our Heavenly Father. – 1 Peter 5:7 says, “Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.”
- Trust God to handle it.– Numbers 23:19 says, “God is not a man, so he does not lie. He is not human, so he does not change his mind. Has he ever spoken and failed to act? Has he ever promised and not carried it through?”
- Press in more than once. Forgiveness happens for some people in one shot. For others its a process. So I don’t want to hear, “Tasha, I tried, but it didn’t work.” No matter what, fight the good fight of faith to forgive them. A life of bitterness is NOT your portion!! Seek counseling & continue to meditate on scripture to release that person so you can walk BURDEN-FREE into the victorious life our Abba Father planned for you! I promise you it’s SOOOOO GOOOOD on the other side!
There are so many steps and tips I could add here, but I’d say this is a pretty good start. What do you think? Are you ready to drop those pounds of unwarranted weight off of your shoulders child of God?? Let’s do it!